Category: KSL Motherhood Matters

The Real Reason Making New Friends is Hard (Especially for Adults)

I stepped out of the shower for the day — never mind that it was already 2 p.m. I just moved into a new home, in a new city, and every day had been a different variety of crazy. Any minute I was expecting my sister-in-law to drop off her kids for me to babysit. I quickly got dressed, wiped the mascara from under my eyes and, not having time for my contact lenses, grabbed my dirty glasses. My hair was still wet so I threw it up in a towel on top of my head. The doorbell rang....

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Fight ‘January Blues’ with yellow — and other positivity tips

Though it’s been a record-breaking cold and stormy January, you may still be holding on to high hopes for a great new year, even working toward your new goals. Statistically though, that is a hard thing for almost half of Americans to do. If you did set a New Year’s resolution or two, according to a study this month by Statistics Brain, only 68.4 percent of you stuck with it for two weeks, and only 58.4 percent of you will stick with it past this month. And then there is Blue Monday. It’s the third Monday of the new...

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3 steps to ‘turn down the heat’ on overwhelm

For a moment, imagine you are standing in a beautiful gourmet kitchen. Right in front of you is an extra large gas range. With 10 burners, this stove top rivals all you’ve seen before. And then you realize you are this stove top. Seriously. Your roles are like the burners on your stove top of life. Most people can handle six to eight roaring burners at a time. And some of the roles we have are back burners that stay off or on “simmer” most of the time. But if we keep more than seven-ish roles always rolling on...

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How to Release False Guilt and Replace it with Better Thoughts

In my last post, we got a little personal discussing some of the guilty thoughts that plague us. I wrote about three questions you can ask yourself to eliminate any of this unnecessary guilt and we worked through a “ditch it” or “fix it” process. But once you determined if you should “ditch it,” I just left you hanging there with little information on how to truly ditch your guilt — for good. And that’s not good enough. Previously we evaluated our guilt based on three questions: Does my guilt come from an external expectation? If you answered yes...

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Simple Questions To Help You Eliminate Your Guilty Thoughts

I asked a vulnerable question on Facebook and was surprised by how honest the answers were — and how many answers came in so quickly. Each time my phone buzzed, I double-tapped and swiped left to read the newest post notification. “I feel guilty when I nap while my daughter naps instead of cleaning the house.” “I feel guilty when I make my kids cry after using my angry mom voice.” “I feel guilty when I daydream about being anywhere else but here.” I knew exactly the feeling they each were describing. I have had those same thoughts. Through...

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