This is an excerpt from the MOMentity article published yesterday on Motherhood Matters on

It was during a phone conversation with a longtime friend that I realized a piece of myself was gone. Looking back, it had only disappeared — but I wondered how I ever let it hide.

My friend and I were at two very different stages of life. She had four school-age children and had just gone back to school herself. She had new friends and new adventures in her life.

We were chatting away, playing catch-up over the phone, trying to make up for years of not seeing each other in person. She was telling me about some of the new extreme sports she had taken up, like paragliding and rock climbing. She was having the time of her life.

And then she asked, “so what do you do for fun?”

Honestly, I was lucky to just make it to the end of the day without completely losing it. And she was asking me what did I do for fun? Seriously?

I sank in my chair. I had no idea. I had nothing to say. At the time, my second child was only a few months old. He was a “hard baby” by every definition of the term.

The only response I had for her was, “I change diapers.”

And that was it. That was the portal in which my formerly fun, outgoing self slipped away into new-mommy oblivion.

I’m sure I’m not the only mother who has ever let this happen. But it took nearly four more years for me to realize that changing diapers should never be something we do for fun.

Of course, there are times in our lives when our young children keep us so busy behind the walls of our home that we can’t focus beyond the front door. I understand that. I was obviously there. At the time, behind the walls of my home rocking a sleep-deprived baby while covered in spit-up was right where I needed to be.

At MOMentity, we remind moms that everyone needs playdates — especially moms. There are two important things we can do to make sure we never let our fun self disappear again…

Read the rest of the article over here.

Join me over at Motherhood Matters on for two things to do to make sure this doesn’t happen again.

What do YOU do to remember your ‘fun self’?