Spring is finally upon us. Tulips are blooming and the robin that lives in the tree outside my kitchen window has returned.
Now is the time we seem to get that urge to air out our home and give it a good spring cleaning. Have you thought to give your schedule a good spring cleaning as well?
We are coming out of a groggy winter and our schedules will quickly fill up — if they haven’t already — with things like extra meetings, baseball practice, dance recitals, even vacations. Now is a great time to check in on your commitments and evaluate their relevance.
At MOMentity, our third mom resolution is “Define and protect my roles.” Understanding the various roles and responsibilities you have is the first step to gaining control of your schedule. These roles include that of spouse, mother, employee or employer, home manager, etc.
Because these roles are so important and affect the people closest to us, it’s critical we are aware of our roles, protect them and even preserve them.
Imagine for a moment you are standing in front of your very messy clothes closet. Ready to get things back in order, you pull everything out. First you organize things into categories such as jeans, T-shirts, dresses, socks, etc. Then you determine which items you won’t keep and set them aside. Finally the remaining items are carefully placed back into your closet, fresh and organized.
You spent time and energy to get your closet looking great. Do you work to keep it clean? Maybe even try to keep your shirts color-coded?
Your life is no different. The roles in your life can be segmented much like you closet, and it’s important to preserve them. There are specific things we can do to safeguard our schedules. Here is a spring cleaning checklist you can apply to your life.
Let go of the roles or responsibilities you can no longer handle or don’t have time to manage anymore. This is harder than it sounds and may take months to phase out commitments you have made. But scaling back when you are over-scheduled is the first step to redefining your life and how you spend your time.
Decide which of your roles are most important and make sure they are front and center. One common mistake moms (especially stay-at-home moms) make is combining the responsibilities of mother and homemaker. We might spend all day cycling laundry, doing dishes and cleaning up messes only to reach the end of the day and realize we never took time to really engage our children. Do you have roles in your life that are out of order? What needs adjustments?
One of the hardest things is finding motivation to do the regular, monotonous things that wear you down. Often on that list is folding laundry, washing dishes and scrubbing toilets. We can “air out” our responsibilities by delegating tasks. Are your children ready to take on an additional chore? Maybe a new chore chart or reward system is all you need to see more results around the house.
As I help other moms gain control of their schedules again, one role is repeatedly left off priority lists, time and time again. That role is “individual self.” Women everywhere forget to make themselves a priority and only create time for self-care in a state of emergency to avoid a meltdown.
Taking care of yourself should be your No. 1 priority. This doesn’t mean you spend all your time only worrying about yourself; it means as you plan each day, make sure your needs come first. Even if you just give yourself a solid 20 minutes each morning for yoga, reading or an uninterrupted shower, you will refresh your soul.
When you are in alignment, you can be the guiding force to keep your family positively moving in the right direction. Moms are important like that.
This article originally published on Family Focus on KSL.com Stock image from freedigitalphotos.net